How To Talk To People on Adult Dating Sites

Language is powerful. Key words here and there can trigger vastly different psychological responses that can mean a big difference for you, especially when it comes to online dating. Phrasing things the right way can mean looking like a creep or being irresistible. For some people creepy is irresistible, so it's a little tricky. Know what you like, what you're willing to accept, and how you want others to perceive you. Lots of people use their dating profile as a sort of alter ego. Sex is a place to explore new mindsets and experiences so keep this in mind when reading other people's profiles. Talk to them in a way that's engaging for them and you'll be sure to get a good response.

 

Keep Messages Short

People online have tiny attention spans. Let me repeat this so it sinks in: people have tiny attention spans. Imagine the moments when you're on the elevator for 1.5 minutes but for some reason you pull out your phone to check email. Try and keep your messages tiny but packed with detail. Bite-sized is better than gigantic. For one, it'll take people forever to get back to you. If your messages are too long you may find that people never get back to you which is the worst.

 

Keep it down to 2-4 sentences TOPS. If they're interested in your profile pic they'll check you out. Mention something about their profile that shows you actually read it. If they're interested feel free to write 4-6 sentences. Remember, short and sweet is the name of the game here.

 

Be Patient But Keep Moving Forward

There's nothing worse than wasting tons of time talking to someone only to see it never pan out. The way you get over this is by always moving forward. Always raise the stakes and keep the relationship progressing. You don't want to let it stagnate. That's boring and ultimately it kills the thrill of hooking up. Keep it fresh and keep the ball rolling. If you're both interested talk about meeting up somewhere, be specific, mention a part of town. The point is take your time but don't let yourself get dogged around with people that aren't serious about meeting.

 

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